Nurture Healthy Feeling Relationships
Think back to your school days. Notice the people around you, in the playground, in class at your table. Also, the other groups around you. For most of us, these crowds didn't change much. Sometimes there were internal flair-ups and feuds and fights that changed the energy. Occasionally, children would wander and groups merge for a time. Nevertheless, can you see the similarities between the kids?
It's because similar people with related interests attract each other. We have a natural instinct to come together. Nobody wants to be a loner, so we conform to an image. We act the part given and say and do things to impress. Sometimes the character amplifies the swag while others steal the costume. A journey into finding out who we really are. And yet, that wasn't the story. At that time...
...the spirit pushed to feel good. And being accepted lifts spirits
So it continues throughout our lives. You then find yourself moving out of the diverse student crowd and into work where the assortment of people might only have one thing in common... work. Now a feeling to fit in can bend your identity so you follow their lead and maybe say and do things that are not truly you.
On the other side of the playing field, few but enough are chasing like a wild animal with hairy fingers and long worn nails, and grasping for happiness. They don't care if it comes at your expense. They'll manipulate and control and attempt to influence an outcome just so they feel good. Typically, they'll avoid responsibility and seek to blame others just to preserve themselves.
As you might imagine, being around the wrong type of person and/or pretending to be someone you're not is likely to manifest feelings of depression and loneliness that will suck the life right out of you. Therefore, it is important to your well-being that you are true to yourself so you can attract the right people and repel others.
Above all, don't be scared to open up and be you. And certainly, do not worry about offending people (unless it's your boss) because you can't please everybody all of the time. Forget about societies expectations and instead, be comfortable in your skin. Wear the clothes that make you feel good, do the things that please you, go to the places that excite you, and talk about the topics that entertain you, that way similar people will become attracted to you and you can develop mutually positive relationships.